Communicating your unmet expectations as a deep source of your grief is a good way to ask people for more time to foster contentment and equanimity.

This technique, common in mindfulness meditation traditions and discussed at length by meditation teachers such as Pema Chodron and Sarah Powers, can be useful as a way of cultivating equanimity toward ourselves: our own emotions, fears, story-telling, attachments.

Self-study to come away from black and white thinking; focusing the lens on what unites us…..aparigraha [Sanskrit]: non-possessiveness, or explained as non-hoarding, or living without that which is essential